Too bad it took a tragedy to bring them together, but a heartwarming story nonetheless. Yay for you Gabrielle Giffords!
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Babies are a blessing. Guess I am not blessed.
I watched as my MIL (Mother in law) had an ear to ear smile as her youngest Grandchild opened his birthday gifts. It was adorable to see. But it made me sad deep inside. I didn't show it of course. This is part of being a childless female, you learn to keep your real feelings inside. This is why childless Stepmothers have the highest rate of depression.
I wish that I could give her a Grandchild to bring on that much joy in her life. I didn't. Someone else who married my husband did. That someone else will always come first because of her Golden Uterus. Not me. She will also always be forgiven and get away with things most women can't.
And if I forget, I have others to remind me of my childless status.
My SIL (sister in law) said to me when talking about our dogs, that she knows (like she walked in my shoes) that I consider my dog my baby. She considers her youngest son her baby and her dog just a dog.
Thanks for that reminder. Getting up everyday realizing I will never be a Mother is not enough.
I wish that I could give her a Grandchild to bring on that much joy in her life. I didn't. Someone else who married my husband did. That someone else will always come first because of her Golden Uterus. Not me. She will also always be forgiven and get away with things most women can't.
And if I forget, I have others to remind me of my childless status.
My SIL (sister in law) said to me when talking about our dogs, that she knows (like she walked in my shoes) that I consider my dog my baby. She considers her youngest son her baby and her dog just a dog.
Thanks for that reminder. Getting up everyday realizing I will never be a Mother is not enough.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Tweendom
I will never judge a Mother of a tween/teen when I see her at the bar drinking one too many.
I will never judge the nasty looks a Mom gives her tween/teen at the store.
I will never judge a Mom of a tween/teen needing lots of "alone time" .
Mothers of tween/teens, I salute you!
ps: God please get me through the next 5 years, thank you!
I will never judge the nasty looks a Mom gives her tween/teen at the store.
I will never judge a Mom of a tween/teen needing lots of "alone time" .
Mothers of tween/teens, I salute you!
ps: God please get me through the next 5 years, thank you!
Friday, October 21, 2011
Proud Stepmoms!
Not all of us hate our Stepkids. This is a great article and how society usually views us (thanks again, Disney!).
Some of the comments from Stepchildren lead me to wonder though. How many of them (and their Mothers) gave these SMs so much grief, that they turned into bitches?
Evil Stepmothers are not born, they are made.
Step-Mom Proudly!
Some of the comments from Stepchildren lead me to wonder though. How many of them (and their Mothers) gave these SMs so much grief, that they turned into bitches?
Evil Stepmothers are not born, they are made.
Step-Mom Proudly!
Friday, October 14, 2011
Childfree
I haven't really touched on this subject too much and there are many of "childfree" people out there.
Do not understand it?
Watch this:
Childless by Choice
What shocked me is not the people's choices, but STRANGERS' reaction to their choices.
Do not understand it?
Watch this:
Childless by Choice
What shocked me is not the people's choices, but STRANGERS' reaction to their choices.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Children born for a "purpose"
My Mother, who suffers from the worse case of NPD, OCD, and BP disorder, said to us when we were younger :"You have to have kids so someone can take care of you when you are old".
Yeah that's a great reason.
My Mother in law and her Mother were talking about a woman's fondness and over the top care of her dog. Grandma said "oh when her daughter has a baby, she will change".
So you can't just genuinely love dogs AND children? It has to be one or the other? Does she really think that she will "diss" her dog for a baby? So her daughter should have a baby to make her Mother happy?
Seems like Grandma, whose son never married and took care of her until he unfortunately died of a heart attack at age 60 (rest his sweet soul) and my Mom are cut from the same time cloth. Children are born for a purpose. To take care of you or fulfill someone else's needs.
My Father in law even told us that way back parents lent out their kids as young as the age of four to work in return for bartering items.
I am so glad women are not baby makers only nowadays and that children are born because their parents just wish for the joys of being a parent; not just for pleasing someone else.
Yeah that's a great reason.
My Mother in law and her Mother were talking about a woman's fondness and over the top care of her dog. Grandma said "oh when her daughter has a baby, she will change".
So you can't just genuinely love dogs AND children? It has to be one or the other? Does she really think that she will "diss" her dog for a baby? So her daughter should have a baby to make her Mother happy?
Seems like Grandma, whose son never married and took care of her until he unfortunately died of a heart attack at age 60 (rest his sweet soul) and my Mom are cut from the same time cloth. Children are born for a purpose. To take care of you or fulfill someone else's needs.
My Father in law even told us that way back parents lent out their kids as young as the age of four to work in return for bartering items.
I am so glad women are not baby makers only nowadays and that children are born because their parents just wish for the joys of being a parent; not just for pleasing someone else.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Weddings
I am going to a wedding Friday night and dreading it for so many reasons. All of them are somehow step related.
Watching a couple joining in a blissful union with no issues of step makes me envious. The man has no ex wife to pay money or answer to. The wife has a chance to start her own family and not have a woman from her husband's past to take up space in her head or determine certain factors of her life.
The next issue is my own and I admit it. My Father died 10 months before my wedding. I never got the Father/Daughter dance. It makes me feel so hurt every time I attend a wedding now. My BM got to dance with her Father 3 times (my DH was her second marriage). I got 0 times. I know I should not compare but, it's yet another thing she got that I didn't.
Most people will talk about their kids at these events and I'll get the 5 headed Medusa look of dread when I tell people I am a childless step monster.
The one positive thing is that I am truly, madly, blissfully happy with my husband.
Isn't that what all this suffering is about?
Watching a couple joining in a blissful union with no issues of step makes me envious. The man has no ex wife to pay money or answer to. The wife has a chance to start her own family and not have a woman from her husband's past to take up space in her head or determine certain factors of her life.
The next issue is my own and I admit it. My Father died 10 months before my wedding. I never got the Father/Daughter dance. It makes me feel so hurt every time I attend a wedding now. My BM got to dance with her Father 3 times (my DH was her second marriage). I got 0 times. I know I should not compare but, it's yet another thing she got that I didn't.
Most people will talk about their kids at these events and I'll get the 5 headed Medusa look of dread when I tell people I am a childless step monster.
The one positive thing is that I am truly, madly, blissfully happy with my husband.
Isn't that what all this suffering is about?
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