So Jada Pinkett Smith posted something on her Facebook page PUBLICLY that has stirred the Step Mother pot.
Here is what she said:
"Blended families are NEVER easy, but here's why I don't have a
lot of sympathy for your situation because... we CHOOSE them. When I
married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package...Period! If I didn't
want that...I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going
to love Trey...I had to learn to love the most important person in the
world to him...his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED
each other... but we have learned to LOVE each other.
I can't support any actions that keep a man from his
children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate
the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who
needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take
on the task at hand. We can't say we love our man and then come in
between him and his children. THAT'S selfishness...NOT love. WOMAN UP...
I've been there...I know. My blended family made me a giant... Taught
me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death
to date. It's time you let your blended family make you the giant you
truly are. J."
Well, let's just say, that opened up a BIG can of worms.
The BEST response was via Huffington Post by Marriage and family Psychotherapist Mary T. Kelly, M.A.
I especially loved this quote: "Would you be as judgmental if you understood the loneliness and
perpetual feeling of being an outsider when you are a childless woman
partnered with a man with children?"
Huffington Post response
