Monday, November 28, 2011

Is a baby always a blessing?

I was pregnant once (total accident; used protection). I didn't keep it. Although it is a big regret of mine, I knew it was the wrong situation. The Father wanted nothing to do with him/her at first and treated me very badly (sadly; he asked me to marry him once it was too late and he realized he was wrong).

I often find women have babies for the wrong reasons. To reconnect with their husbands when really everyone can see they are not right for each other. This usually backfires once the baby can walk and draws them further apart. They have them even though the marriage is over to please others and have society view them as "normal". They also want to keep up with the Jones'. I guess being in a very unhappy marriage or divorced with 3 kids is better than being without. The children usually grow up with a bad view of relationships and repeat their parents' mistakes.

See, I thought I was doing the right thing.

As another CSM said
"I dont think children are always blessings per se. I do know they're innocent of adult choices. And some circumstances are not blessings for children."

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Holidays and Infertility

For the ladies who are dreading the holidays and are frustrated, here is some hope and comfort for you.

website and video Redbook

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Fairytales can come true. It can happen to you...even if you are the "evil" Stepmother!

Too bad it took a tragedy to bring them together, but a heartwarming story nonetheless. Yay for you Gabrielle Giffords!


Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Babies are a blessing. Guess I am not blessed.

I watched as my MIL (Mother in law) had an ear to ear smile as her youngest Grandchild opened his birthday gifts. It was adorable to see. But it made me sad deep inside. I didn't show it of course. This is part of being a childless female, you learn to keep your real feelings inside. This is why childless Stepmothers have the highest rate of depression.

I wish that I could give her a Grandchild to bring on that much joy in her life. I didn't. Someone else who married my husband did. That someone else will always come first because of her Golden Uterus. Not me. She will also always be forgiven and get away with things most women can't.

And if I forget, I have others to remind me of my childless status.

My SIL (sister in law) said to me when talking about our dogs, that she knows (like she walked in my shoes) that I consider my dog my baby. She considers her youngest son her baby and her dog just a dog.

Thanks for that reminder. Getting up everyday realizing I will never be a Mother is not enough.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011


I will never judge a Mother of a tween/teen when I see her at the bar drinking one too many.

I will never judge the nasty looks a Mom gives her tween/teen at the store.

I will never judge a Mom of a tween/teen needing lots of  "alone time" .

Mothers of tween/teens, I salute you!

ps: God please get me through the next 5 years, thank you!