I am a Childless Stepmother

Is it juxtaposition or an oxymoron? Just saying it sounds wrong but, it is who I am. I never planned it that way. There are others like me. Each situation is different. They may be childless by choice, childless by circumstance, or cannot conceive. So not only does your knight in shining amour not have children with you (which is the reason why marriage was institutionalized in the first place), he had them with someone else. That "someone" else will always be in your life like any Stepmother will have to deal with but, it's even harder to deal with when she shared the reason for being a woman with your husband (or partner).

I read somewhere that you are not complete as a woman unless you conceive. I guess that I will never be complete. This is what society will always think no matter what year it is or how far women have come. You are expected in having everything: a career, relationship, and a child. No wonder why most women are in therapy or taking medication!

Now add in that you basically are kind of like a Mother (I use that term very loosely) in that you do all of the daily routines and still yet, are not "the Mom". The whole world reminds you. Even when your own Stepdaughter says "Stop saying you are childless, you are not!". If only the world would think like a 10 year old.

I am hoping this blog gets a lot of followers of all different kinds. The childless Stepmother is more prevalent in this day and age more than anyone thinks. We just can't talk a lot about it because it goes against the institution of marriage. The same institution that the government decides on if you "qualify" (gay marriage).